Do you want to work out what you can do to stop your break up and make your ex see that you are the person he or she should be with? The unfortunate truth about break up is that almost all ex’s don’t know the right way to turn things around and make their ex feel as if they made a huge mistake ending the relationship. Too often they will try any and everything to convince their ex to come back and in the process destroy any chance they had to reunite and get back together after a break up. If you want nothing more than to understand what you can do today to get the ball rolling and get your lover back in your arms and get back together after a break up you need to read this article carefully.

First things first, it is time to let go. Yes, that is right, you need to summon up the strength to tell your ex you understand and respect their decision and give them all the space they need during this time. Do not make the mistake of trying to constantly call or text message your ex in the hopes that you will keep them nearby and in your life or try and tell them you want to remain friends. Staying on the side lines waiting for your ex to come back is not the answer. Don’t make it any easier on your ex by making them feel as if you will be waiting around like a little puppy dog for them to come back. This is the last thing you want to do, you want to cut all ties and stop all communication, this is one of the best ways to get your girlfriend back that most ex’s don’t understand.

You see, almost all ex’s have second thoughts after a break up whether it is the next day or next week or even months down the track. Don’t make your ex feel as if they can do whatever they please while you are waiting by the phone or praying for them to come back. There is no need to make the process easier on them. You need to show your ex exactly what they are missing not having you in their life as a lover or as a friend.

The best thing you can do is turn the tables on your ex and win your girlfriend back is to make them feel as if you were the one that dumped them. You don’t have to use dirty tricks to make that happen you simply need to make yourself smile, be confident and show your ex that you can happily live without them and don’t mind the single life. Of course this is not exactly how you feel but you must make your ex feel as if they made a mistake and make their doubts about ending the relationship grow and grow.

Do you miss your ex?  Are you having trouble moving on?  Here are seven strategies to pursue when you miss your ex.

1.    Decide that it is over.  As long as you think there is a chance to get back together, you will continue to experience feelings of missing your ex girlfriend or boyfriend.  If you practice strategies like texting or phoning them trying to catch them off guard, you will continue to keep the feelings alive.  When you miss your ex, try one of the other strategies presented here.

2.    Get rid of all of their stuff.  Do an exchange where you give them their stuff and they give you yours.  Don’t hold on to physical items for sentimental reasons, it will just remind you of how much you miss your ex.  If there are small things that you don’t give back (such as a tooth brush or a comb) throw them away.  You don’t need the constant reminders.

3.    Write them a letter – then burn it.  One reason why you continue to miss your ex is because you haven’t gotten them out of your system.  So, write a letter pouring out all of your feelings about the relationship and the break up.  When you have released your emotions, then get rid of the letter.  There is something emotionally satisfying about watching your words go up in smoke.

4.    Reconnect with your friends.  Sometimes when you get in a hot and heavy relationship, your ties to friends and even family wither.  If this is the case, reconnect with your friends.  Redevelop relationships that you have let simmer.  Your friends and family love you even if your ex doesn’t anymore.

5.    Make new friends.  One of the reasons you miss your ex is because he or she took up so much of your time.  Now, in addition to the intense emotional void you are feeling, you have time on your hands.  Fill that time with new activities or interests.  Take a class at the local university’s extension program.  Learn to do the tango.  Join a co-ed softball team.  Volunteer to clean up the park through an environmental program.  When you keep busy, you will find that closing the time void also helps you close the emotional void.

6.    Get a pet.  A dog, cat, or other pet can help you reconnect to what is real.  A pet needs your attention and love.  A pet can also give you love.  When you miss your ex, you can reach out for a pet who loves you.

7.    Start dating other people.  The world moves on.  There are lots of other fish in the sea.  Once you reconnect with your friends, start new activities, and even start to walk the dog, you will begin to see all of the opportunities you have with the opposite sex.  Don’t worry that a first date has to lead to a complicated relationship when you are not ready for one.  Just go out and enjoy yourself.  Soon, you will stop feeling that you miss your ex so much.

Follow these seven steps and you will soon find that you are not saying you miss your ex at all!

Does your to-do list look something like this:

·    Walk dog
·    Water plants
·    Break up with significant other

Okay, while ending a relationship is hardly at the top of anybody’s calendar, the fact is that when a relationship has gone sour, someone has to make the move to end it.  The truth is that many relationships last long beyond the “expire by” date just because breaking up is hard to do.

Sometimes a break up happens in dramatic fashion with clothes being thrown out of a second story window.

Other times, the relationship just peters out until someone says “it’s caput.”

How do you go about ending a relationship so that neither party gets hurt?
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