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Getting Your Ex-Boyfriend Back- Think About Why He Left First

Tuesday, September 20th, 2011 at 4:41 am  
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Getting Your Ex-Boyfriend Back- Think About Why He Left First

If you need help getting your ex-boyfriend back then before you make any rash decisions you need to take some time to sit down and think about what really happened. Did he leave you or did you drive him away? The answer to this question will determine which path you have to take in order to correct this.

When a man leaves a relationship, it is for one of three reasons: he found someone else, he is looking for someone else and doesn’t want to wait until he finds her to leave, or you have done something that has hurt him so much to make him believe that he is no longer wanted.
If he has found someone else, do you really want him back? If he left once, then he doesn’t value the relationship enough to care about you. Chances are extremely high that he would do it again. This is not a healthy relationship. In fact, it is not a relationship: it is an infatuation on your part. He is just along for the ride.

If he left because he wants someone else and he hasn’t even found them yet, this is a clear indication of two things. It is over between the two of you, and he isn’t ready to settle down with just one person. Not even having someone else lined up means he might not want to be tied to one person, which is also cause to run.

The last scenario is the best option because it means that he cares for you. If a guy leaves because he was hurt by you then he still cares. That means there is a chance that he will come back- if you make amends in the right way.
You need to immediately contact him to talk, but not in person: just over the phone. And no emails or texts either. He needs to hear the sincerity in your voice.

Remain calm and ask him to consider giving you another chance. Tell him that the separation has opened your eyes to realize that being without him hurts too much. The relationship is worth working on and you are ready to commit whatever it takes to prove it to him. Then let him talk. Ask him what it will take to bring you back together. The more he talks, the better chance you have of getting your ex-boyfriend back.

Methods Regarding Luring An Ex Back

Wednesday, June 15th, 2011 at 3:01 am  
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When thinking about the ways how to get an ex back it is important to figure out the reasons why things did not go the way you planned. A lot of the time we have expectations in relationships that are unrealistic and it can be helpful for us to look at ways of altering our perceptions in order to make our interactions work out better.

Your ex may have been someone who you thought was a little too sensitive. This is something that women may respond to quite negatively but once the relationship ends then they can start to miss being with someone with whom they can communicate in a mature manner, This is very noticeable if you have begin a relationship with a boy who is exactly the opposite.

There may have also been issues if you were with a boy who came across as very jealous. Often this might actually be a sign that they are telling you about how important they are to you and can reveal any insecurities about losing you that they had. Once things have ended there might be tendency for you to rethink things and reconsider rekindling a relationship that you had dismissed.

Timing is something which has an impact over all interpersonal relationships within our lives. This can often be about our instincts. Things that will work for you tomorrow may not be quite in place today and this applies to boyfriends as well. We need to be sure that things feel right for them to work out.

If this has happened with you then there are ways to open up channels of communication again and get things back on track. Talking directly to someone is the best choice to make. This way you can be honest and direct and they can read your body language and be able to see your true intent. Think about ways to tell them you want to make things work.

Do not think about finding ways that resolve matter by making telephone calls or sending texts or using the internet as it is better to use face to face methods of communicating. This way you’ll stop the chance of any misunderstandings occurring. It is best that you take a brave approach when it comes to expressing your feelings. In doing this you will reap the rewards of intimacy.

They may not be sure about trying things again and if this is the case you will need to give them space and time. People sometimes just need room to come to terms with their feeling and once they are given this opportunity then they can have a completely different mindset and approach. Time settles many problems and may be what is needed to make thing right.

Your life does not need to come to a complete standstill because you are experiencing problems related to emotions. Life needs to continue so you have new experiences. Take this opportunity to maintain relationships with family and friends and concentrate on things like studying and may otherwise have neglected.

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Your questions about commitment issues dating relationship advice

Thursday, January 20th, 2011 at 12:05 am  
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Jenny asks…

Relationship Advice! Is commitment an issue to women that act like this? Kindly read.?

Me and this girl were dating for 3 months. All of a sudden she says that she feels its not going anywhere. BUT she calls me and texts me like we are still dating. Do you think she just needs time. Today she texts me twice and calls me and I didn’t respond until an hour later and she thinks I am ignoring her. Is this a game???? I really like her and i felt we really never got to know eachother well enough. Would she still miss me if i just back off and would that be my only chance. We clicked very very well. Had sex 2 times and enjoyed each other company. Anyone have any life experiences to share etc.. I am 30 she 26.Why would she think I am ignoring her if she broke it off? Any advice or anything .. PLEASE. Could she just be thinking of still being with me? What does a girl think in this situation.
Last night she invited me out to dinner then back to her house. I told her I thought she was confused and unsure of what she wanted. She really didn’t say much to that. We were happy together last night. She keeps saying we are friends but I don’t understand. Could it be she is just starting to have a lot of feelings and she is now terrified of being hurt or is she just being nice?? Next day I told her I was moving on and she was scared? Later that night we hung out and she had sex with me and she is starting to get close with me again! She now keeps talking about relationship stuff with me? Is this my second chance? Is she just fearful of commitment or what? Any Advice/Life experiences to share??

linda answers:

She’s scared of commitment but she doesn’t want to be alone.
I was in a relationship with a man two years older than myself who acted just like this. I figured that he did it because on the surface he fancied himself as a player but deep down he was terrified of being alone.
She’s keeping you dangling so that if she feels like no one wants her, she can call you and know that you’ll come running.

Tell her straight that you don’t understand and if she continues to show nothing but disrespect for your feelings, ignore her.
:) xxx

Ken asks…

I think I have commitment issues… any help, advice, or anything else it could be?

Im 15 and in highschool. Ive been asked out by some guys this year and as much as i want a long-term relationship, i cant seem to do it. I have a lot of friends who have been with their boyfriends for a year or 2 and are still together. i want that. When i finally get the guy i like to ask me out and i say yes, i get really uncomfortable and want to be with other guys and not with the guy who asked me out. ive tried to force myself to be happy, but i just can’t seem to do it. i would NEVER cheat though. the longest ive had a relationship for was 8 months and thats when i forced myself but it just made me feel worse. ive only dated about 7 guys (i dont make it official until we kiss, usually on the 2nd or 3rd date) and they were all really nice and seem to have cared about me, but i just kept criticizing them in my head even though i really liked them before. Before i started dating them, they looked perfect, i loved their personalities, everything about them, but as soon as westarted dating, it changed, i seemed to uncontrolably look for every little flaw they had. I havent had any trauma. my parants have been together for 23 years and are still going strong. Any help or advice?

linda answers:

Its just a phase and you will get through it but you cant make yourself sorry. I went through it too and so have my friends, its different for everyone in the way it happens but, i think it must just be part of growing up. It passes like every phase. I was with a guy who really liked me, even said he loved me and i thought he was awesome but I couldnt stay with him, i’d be at parties with him, but atttracted to different guys and then wanted to be with them instead, i broke it off and we stayed friends, and then i past through my phase and we ended up back together. I’d be with him forever given the chance so i dont think you have commitment issues, its just life :P x

Sandra asks…

Commitment issues??

Whenever I start dating someone I am perfectly happy and content dating them for about 2 months and then something just snaps. I start trying to avoid them. I don’t like being around him or even answering his phone calls. It’s been like this with every relationship I have ever had with a guy. I have never been hurt so I don’t feel like I’m trying to protect myself.
I have managed to stick it out for 6 months now with my current boyfriend. I am getting to that point where I don’t want to do anything with him anymore. I actually dread having to talk to him. This isn’t how I want to feel, but I can’t help it. He keeps telling me that he loves me, and that if I were to break up with him he would never be able to trust a woman ever again. I don’t want to hurt him. He’s a great guy. but I feel like I am incapable of loving anyone other than my friends and family. I just don’t feel the same way.
I don’t know what is wrong with me. I just need some advice. please.

linda answers:

I can relate to everything you just said. Not to overanalyze the matter, but it would probably be wise to look a little deeper into your tendancy.

Typically, I find it very difficult to be just “happy” in a relationship. It is great for a month or two, and then I’m looking for the exit. I’m pushing 40, and nothing has changed in the last 20 years of dating. At this point, there is no shame in just admitting some truths I have encountered.

1) I enjoy my own life, space, and privacy. Dating can be an intrusion. However, this alone does not make me look for the exit.

2) It seems difficult for me at times to believe that the person I am dating could possibly be interested in me. I contrive ways to invalidate their affection. People have told me I have low self esteem and low estimates of my worth. Not sure what it is they see.

3) It is difficult to look down the road even 3 to 5 years and see myself married, or in some instances raising step-children. Simply can’t picture it. Not that it is something I dread. Not at all. Put simply, try as I may, it is something that just doesn’t any kind of tangibility.

At this point, I’m getting a little tired of being alone. Having no emotional support system is hard to live with. I’ve asked the same questions you just did for 15 years or more.

I know this is no answer, but it is important to me that you not tear yourself up over the matter. Who knows, maybe it is as natural for you and I to want to be alone as it is for other people to naturaly want to be in a relationship.

Joseph asks…

Break up/Relationship Advice.. on the verge of insanity.?

Well if anyone has the time to hear me out, I’d REALLY appreciate it, because I have a lot to say, and I really, REALLY need the help from people who aren’t biased or won’t judge me.

I’m 18. I’ve been in one real relationship. Until I met this guy, I was basically a nobody, all I did was be a cute little innocent school girl. Until I met *him*. When we got together, everything changed, including what I did (like drinking, clubbing) to the people I hung out with. I met him when I was 16, and he was 18. I’m now 18 and he is 20. I grew up very quickly because of my ex. I matured faster and found myself always being the youngest in the crowd.

Because he was my first, we had a strong connection, but I was always curious, and sometimes I got bored and had commitment issues. He treated me like a queen. He did everything and anything for me. I always had attitude issues and got frustrated easily. I took him for granted. He forgave me a lot. Sometimes I would find myself getting lured into other guy’s traps. This happened nearly 3 times. The 3rd time I caught myself.

We dated for a total of 13 months. We just broke up 10 days ago. In these past 10 days I’ve had suicidal thoughts, I’ve hurt myself, I never wanted to wake up. I spent the last 13 months of my life with this man, and all of the sudden, HE’S GONE. Especially because our mutual friends prefer him over me, I feel very lonely. I don’t enjoy life anymore.

He says he can’t trust me, he says he never loved me, he says he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I can’t grasp that though. He has said some very cruel things to me. I never cheated on him though. Never. I talked to other guys while dating him.

Disaster makes people change, and that’s what happened to me. I never realized anything was wrong with me until the most important thing was taken away from me, and I would kill to get my love back. I wanted to marry him. I just never could admit it, and I would never tell him… He gave me a ring, he took it back.. he took back all his clothes, everything. He ignored my calls for 10 days, we’ve talked a few times, but that would be me begging for him, or him telling me nasty, awful names.

How can I get my love back? I would do anything…
To the first responder, I did not cheat on him.

linda answers:

Hey! If I were you, I would check out this blog:

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You can email in a question and a relationship expert will reply with advice for you. It is awesome! They really helped me out yesterday. It’s completely anonymous. Good luck!

David asks…

my boyfriend has major trust and commitment issues..please help?

i met my boyfriend over the summer. he was not the normal type of guy that i would date but dispite all of the flaws or waht not i started to fall for him like really fast. which in my case never happens..i just never felt this way about anyone. come to find out i had more feelings for him and we stopped seeing eachother he actually went back to his ex at this time (at this point we were only dating nt committed). he ended up realizing that he had made a mistake and wanted to be with me and commit to me. he told me he didnt realize what he had when we were dating and wanted to make it work. well at this point i was aware of his trust and commitment issues due to his past relationships of woman lieing and cheating. i choose to take him back simply because i had felt from the moment i started dating him that things were just right. he is an amazing guy and i feel i am also an amazing woman…we are seriously the couple that everyone looks at and envys. everyone that sees us says we are perfect for each other and can see the chemistry. well i stopped dancing and made many changes for our relationship because i truly do care very deeply for him. everything was going great i mean better than i could have ever asked for. there were a few times where i didnt tell him the truth for no reason even though i could have i felt as though i couldnt which was my mistake. but i never cheated or did anything towards him or against our relationship. tht happend within the first 6weeks of our committed relationship. since then i have been so honest with him god is smiling at me. But he now is saying that he isnt sure if he sees a future due to his lack of trust and not being sure if he ever sees himself getting married. seriously i love this guy and know that i will never hurt him or ever be dishonest about anything but i dont know how to prove that to him. i have apologized to him many times about not being honest with him. we live together right now and we are trying to figure out what to do … stay together or split up . i want to stay together obviously but am at a loss of what to do…i know many people would say leave why would you want to be with a guy who feels that way but i care so much for him and want this to work i know how perfect we are together but idk if his fear of someone hurting him is gonna be the end of us… having him essentially shutting me out and pushing me away. please give me advice and no rude comments..thank you so much

linda answers:

You can’t control how he feels or what he wants. If he has no trust and is unsure of the relationship, and if he is thinking of splitting, you can’t force him to change his mind. It would be wrong on your part to make him stay in a relationship he doesn’t want.

Trust me, if he does want out, you’ll find at some point that there is a silver lining to this black cloud. If you’re an amazing woman, then there is a guy out there who WANTS to be in a committed, honest relationship without hesitation. A guy who has a healthy attitude and outlook.

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Your questions about dating advice tips and tricks

Tuesday, January 18th, 2011 at 6:05 pm  
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Mary asks…

How to get the guy? Date advice, Tips, tricks, Flirting Techniques?

Hey okay SOOOO lets cut to the chase

Met a guy, he had a HUGE party at his house, i went with some friends, I ended up dancing with him about 4 times. definitely flirty
then about a week later he texts me and asks if when he gets back in town, if i wanted to go see a movie with him. I said YES of course, so hes gone for 2 weeks without contact.
Before he left, I mentioned my friends big “sweet 16″ birthday party/dance and he asked if he should go, I said YES WITH ME! and he said hed love to, and thanks for inviting him. SO he just recently broke up with his longtime girlfriend (were both about 16/17 btw) and hes been majorly on the rebound but i am starting to think hes getting over it.

The movies will be my first REAL date. and I REALLY NEED TIPS and help on what to do, how to act, etc.

The party, I think I can handle. I just REALLY want to impress him. I want to show him im not your average skanky girl that is just all over him. I want him to know I am genuine.

HELP!?!?! guys or girls advice would be great!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!
also, Do i kiss him on the 1st date? or wait? what would be appropriate? I will probly WANT to kiss him, but I dont want to mess it up and make him think im an easy girl cause I am SOOO totally not.

THANKS AGAIN…

linda answers:

Very easy situation. Though personally, I don’t think you should go to the movies with him for a first date. I think you should ask him to take somewhere else where you could really bond and talk to each other. When you’re at the movies, you obviously can’t talk to each other, so it really much of a first date. Maybe movie dates in the future, but try going to the beach or what not as a first. The park is even better than a movie.

But here are the tips you’ve asked for.

#1: Don’t be negative about dating. Why should a man pursue someone who isn’t happy? It’s ineffective manhandling to dump your dating disappointments on bachelor No. 3.

Romance Rule: Be a romantic challenge, not a mental health challenge.

#2: Don’t get tipsy. Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you possibly observe him and decide if he’s remotely right for you?

Romantic Rule: Always stay sober enough to remember how naughty you were the night before!

#3: Don’t talk badly about your exes. I don’t care if he cheated on you with your sister, don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded.

Romantic Rule: We all have baggage. Keep it in the closet on first dates.

#4: Don’t spook your suitor. Now is not the time to point out your physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually do something about them, and not to men who will now be forced to lie to you if they possess good manners.

Romantic Rule: Confidence is sexy! Sometimes, thoughts are for the inside.

#5: Don’t talk about your personal pet peeves. Although your therapist might get butterflies inside when you talk about how traumatized you are by the staggering number of germs that thrive in public restrooms, the typical male will be horrified. You’ll have violated the sacred air space of “romantic quality time” and these little monologues of strange pain will be as off-putting as if you started sorting unwashed laundry in a restaurant.

Romantic Rule: You already know all about you. Keep your problems to yourself and get to know him.

#6: Don’t chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.

Romantic Rule: When men chase you, they’re much less likely to fly away.

#7: Don’t keep squawking.

“Don’t feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter.”

If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic, just let it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant pause, “Come here and kiss me!”

Romantic Rule: Remember, sometimes less conversation really is more.

#8: Learn how to leave. Anyone can be pleasant when they’re enjoying themselves, but the true test of character is how one behaves when terribly bored, or worse, treated shabbily. There’s nothing to be gained by suffering through a terrible date, so if you’re having an awful time, depart quickly and gracefully, without being rude. When you’re itching to leave, say: “Thank you so much for meeting me. I think it’s time for me to go on home, Jerome. (Smile) Take care.” Extend your hand for a quick shake, swiftly turn on your heel and depart.

Steven asks…

Dating tips needed!?

Ok so i’ve added a girl i met on facebook, same city, etc etc. I really like her, we just met okay and i would like to meet her in real life, what advice, tips, tricks would you give me to take it to that point? Please give me good tips i really like her and want to meet her. I just met her so don’t want to be too sudden!

linda answers:

Ask her if she WANTS to meet at the park, or someplace similar to that, someplace private yet still public and safe sounding. Most girls would like to feel like they’re safe and protected, its in their evolutionary genetic code.
This may sound stupid but find out what sign she is and go from there too. For example, if she is a Cancer then ask to take her out to eat because cancers love to eat.

Thomas asks…

need some advice on seeing my long distance boyfriend this weekend and i have a fever blister?

I am leaving friday to see my long distance boyfriend this weekend. I have a fever blister the size of Texas on my lip and because of the severity of this blister I am very insecure about it. My bf and i have been dating for almost 5 months now and he has not seen me with a blister before. I am very nervous and afraid that he will be grossed out and turned off. Does anyone have any advice, tips or tricks for me?

linda answers:

>Avoid acidic and salty foods. Foods such as chocolates, peanuts, grains, peas, seeds, oatmeal and whole-wheat are high in arginine, therefore they should be restricted. Avoid tea and coffee. Eat vitamin rich diet. Your diet must include vitamin A, C and E. Zinc and iron are also necessary. Include garlic in your diet. Eat fresh food with high antioxidants and high complex carbohydrates. Avoid processed food. Eat lots of fruits and green leafy vegetables.

> http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/2403/1/Home-Remedies-For-Fever-Blisters.html

Mandy asks…

Tips for a new college student, do you have any?

I’m going off to college this fall. I’m so nervous and excited. Do you have any tips, tricks or advice you really wished you knew? It could be about anything. Scholarships, money, avoiding the freshman 15, dating, school work and test prep. What do you think is the MOST important thing for someone to know when they go to college?

linda answers:

BE OPEN MINDED! College is a culture shock. This is the first time you are completely on your own so you have to be responsible. No matter what anyone else says, academics always come first. If you work hard you play hard. You will meet so many different people and experience new situations so whatever comfort zone you had in high school will be challenged. Be your own person. And don’t be nervous. Everyone is in the same situation as you so don’t feel like you’re the only one. Really pay attention to the syllabus because each professor has a different teaching style. And never feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. Best of luck! You will do great!

George asks…

I’m getting married and need some tips?

Hi! well like my title says, I’m getting married next fall and am just starting the planning process. We have yet to pick and exact date, but we’ve pretty much decided on aug of 2011. We’re trying to have a classy, elegant wedding while spending as little as we can. So, I’m more or less asking for any tips, tricks, advice or anything else anyone would like to give me. Thanks!
Thanks, I’ll definitely check that website out!
Thanks Dev =0)

linda answers:

Hi Simi, congrats! You are right on track with picking out your month, but don’t choose a day yet! Find the venue you want, and choose a day based on their availability. Most places offer discounts on Sunday weddings or weekday weddings (weekdays are hard for guests to do).

Definitely sign up with theknot.com. Keep an eye on their checklist, budgeter, and clearance shop!

First find your reception hall. Pick your colors after (so they don’t clash), and search for a place to have the ceremony nearby (if you aren’t going to do it all at one location. It IS typically cheaper to do it all together). Look into some hotels, some of the less “fancy” chains like Holiday Inn might surprise you with how nice their event spaces are (in some cases).

Try to pick a place that does wedding packages, not only will this save you a ton of effort, but it can sometimes save money. A reception hall will contract with the same vendors each time, which means they get discounts. Many times, it is cheaper to book a wedding package with a cake and centerpieces included than to buy them separately yourself, but do the math and figure it out.

Good luck!

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How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back When Shes Said No More

Thursday, October 21st, 2010 at 6:10 pm  
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Do you want to know how to get your ex girlfriend back again?  Do you know that three quarters of relationships end when the lady says “no more”?  Guys are often the final to know that their relationships are in trouble.  That’s why they usually panic and do the wrong issues when this happens.  Here’s the appropriate strategy for the way to get your ex girlfriend back.

First of all, STOP.  That is, you shouldn’t do something for at the very least forty eight hours.  There are so many feelings that surround a break up.  Don’t feed into the drama.  

You may need to hide in your room or even name in sick to work.  However, don’t do something to move the relationship ahead – or backwards.  Give your self time to get over the initial shock of being dumped.  

This doesn’t imply that you need to give into depression.  It does nonetheless offer you license to mirror and contemplate your next moves.  Use this time to organize for the future.  

The subsequent thing it is best to do in your methods to get your ex girlfriend back is to understand that your ex just isn’t going to be in your life for at the least a couple of days.  That’s okay.

Most males assume that one of the best thing they’ll do is ship flowers, call a dozen times, or ship 100 texts.  

Flawed, improper, mistaken!

This just reminds your ex girlfriend about all of the unhealthy things in your relationship and doesn’t give her time to think about the things she liked about you.

As a substitute, keep away.  If she needs to contact you, she will.  Chasing her will solely chase her away.  

Your emotions are in turmoil proper now.  Once you reconnect, you wish to be calm, cool, and collected.  That’s unimaginable in your current situation.  Don’t give into your impulse to contact your ex.  Use this time to contemplate step three.

Step three in your how to get your ex girlfriend back again strategy~technique} is to draw curiosity, attraction, and passion from her.  You wish to be someone that she needs to love.

One of the ways to do that is to seem that you’ve got moved on.  When you go out together with your buddies (with out crying on their shoulders), go to the health club, take up new actions, and even date new women, you make your girlfriend ponder whether she was mistaken to offer you up.  

Eventually, she offers you alerts that she is ready to get again together.  And, that’s the best way to get your ex girlfriend back.