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Your questions about love relationship advice

Monday, January 17th, 2011 at 12:05 am  
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Joseph asks…

Relationship Advice? Love and sex?

Hello,

I am in a loving relationship with the love of my life… We’ve been together for only 2 months, so it’s still pretty new. We love each other and miss each other when we can’t be together. I am 33, and she is 34.

Initially, we waited about 3 weeks to have sex. It was free and good, and there were no problems. We would be together physically every day, or every other day. Then, somehow, something happened a few weeks ago where now we don’t feel free with each other, and we’ve had some difficult unsuccessful attempts (the first one was when we had drank too much, then the seeds of anxiety grew in both of us, which brought about the other unsuccessful tries). Now we don’t even really try except for maybe once a week or something, and it hasn’t been good for a while.

We still are in so much love, but our sexual issue is starting to make me think we don’t have the chemistry we thought we did. It’s hard for us to communicate openly about the issue, so instead we’ve just stopped trying. Really, she stopped responding to my advances.

I am not sure how to progress. I am fearful that our relationship is on the decline. It’s not all about sex, but I want that free feeling back that we used to have, and now there’s so much anxiety surrounding it that I just don’t even want to try anymore.

Is anyone in a stable relationship (longer than 2 months, say, maybe a few years?), that had an initial setback physically? Do I still have hope to work this out and get the freedom back we used to feel? What can I do to make her feel free again? I need to feel wanted in a relationship, and I feel like ssince she stopped responding to my advances, maybe she just isn’t attracted to me anymore. But throughout the day we hug and touch and laugh and play, so I don’t want to give up the love of my life over a temporary issue.

Any advice?

linda answers:

Communication.
Why don’t you try a stay-at-home date? Something simple but romantic… or a date out for dinner & a movie. You could try to do something you both used to do when you first met. Did you go to an event? Out for lunch?

A lot of people rely on sex for their relationship. If what you two have is love, then it will come back eventually. Maybe the “connection” every day or every other day was interfering with the get-to-know-you aspect. Do something that will bring you two together emotionally & mentally, and the physical part will come.

Too many relationships are torn apart because of the “I don’t have that feeling anymore” reason. Love is not a feeling. It HAS feeling, but it isnt a feeling. Just because the sexual chemistry isnt there doesn’t mean your relationship is going to fall. Maybe all you two need is a break from the physical and a time to focus on each other’s thoughts, emotions, etc.

It is very possible for a couple to regain the deeper passion that was there before. It just needs a little time.

Spend time together, ask her what she wants to do, is there anywhere she wants to go, etc. I think flowers are a very, very sweet gesture. It’s simple and classic. If there is a place that has flowers growing then by all means go and pick some. It is much better than buying them from a store. :)

Best of love & wishes to you both!

Richard asks…

If you are a parent, what would you advice your daughter if she is in a long distance love relationship?

To all parents out there: If your daughter/son is in a long distance love relationship what would you advice your daughter/son on how to make his/her fiance/fiancee feel love? even if they are miles and miles apart. Please give examples, if you could.

linda answers:

If she is really in love the distance is going to make that feeling stronger. It is very romantic situation and probably she will feel like no body will stop her love… not only the distance.
If you are worried about her leaving you… you must start thinking that the goal of the parents is to let the kids when they are prepared to fly alone. Trust on your values and education!
If you are worried about the potential damage that the distance can make on the relationship… I think is the same in any relationship. Let the things to happen… that is part of her experience.
But just let her know that you are there for her. A friend to listen to her worries and a mother to comfort her heart.

Thomas asks…

10 pts!! Whats the true meaning of love?? (relationship advice)?

I want to know if i really love this guy and if he really loves me. Im going to ask him how he knows that he loves me and Im going to do the same. How do YOU (personally) know that you lovee a certain somebody??

linda answers:

Well, Love is something that you cannot describe with words. There are no way to tell someone why you love them. If he tells you that he love you because of your personality, your hair, your eyes, your looks. Then he doens’t love you, because those things are just attractions. If he tells you that he loves you because of those things, he’s only attracted to those things. You can’t describe love to someone with words.

Michael asks…

love/relationship advice?

What would u do if u found yourself falling in love with someone who has relationship pain from recent years and your still getting over a break up

i dont want to do anything stupid but at the same time i want to get closer to this new person or she could disapear from my life entirely

bascially im very confused :S any help would be great :)

linda answers:

I think the best thing to do with this situation is just be honest with her and tell her how you are feeling.

If she is getting over a relationship that ended years ago, then clearly there is something wrong with that…maybe she just needs someone else to come along and give her reason to finally gain some closure.

If I were you, I would bite the bullet and tell her how you’re feeling. She find that you are exactly what she is looking for!

Good Luck!

Nancy asks…

Love Relationship Advice.?

I am 17 years old, about to turn 18 in May, I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for a while now, Middle and High School sweet hearts. We’ve been together since December 25, 2005. We been through so much together UPs and DOWNs but we’ve manage to pull through together. High School is almost over and she wants to continue her education and head to San Francisco State. But I want to stay here in San Diego because I already have future business/education things planned out with my father’s Company. She wants to leave San Diego because it getting “Too Small” and we know many people here. All I am asking for is a little advice and how to deal with things and what should I do.
Thanks in Advance Yahoo!

linda answers:

You might think about your future and encourage her to do what she thinks is best for her future education…

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Learn How to Get Him Back

Friday, May 29th, 2009 at 12:59 am  
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Are you yearning for the good old days and hoping to rekindle a lost romance? Are you interested in giving a tumultuous relationship another chance? Follow these steps detailed below and you can learn how to get him back.

1 – Keep in mind, first and foremost, that patience is a virtue. Do not rush anything, but rather start things off with a simple small whenever you pass your ex, or waving and saying hello every so often. You should maintain eye contact so that he knows you are communicating with him and not with somebody else, but do not let it go much further than this.

2 – Try slowly implementing conversation in again, making an attempt to talk to him when you can. Remember that you should keep your conversation brief, and rather basic in nature. Do not reveal too much, because mystery is actually quite a bit appealing for many men. Also, if you run into him at a party or a social gathering, if your friends come into the room, you may consider stopping the conversation to return to them. This will let him know that while the communication between the two of you is nice, he is not your highest priority right now. Don’t be afraid to flirt a little bit here and there as well.

3 – Keep things fresh. Make sure that you look good, and smell good, and that you keep things changed up on a fairly regular basis in order to keep him interested in you. You should put some thought into your appearance because maintaining your good looks will show confidence and respect for yourself and your body which is something that most men find quite sexy and attractive.

4 – Don’t be afraid to throw a few honest compliments out there every so often. You are going to want to make sure that your ex feels good any time he is around you if you really want to get your ex back. Talk about the good times that you and he spent together, bringing up good memories from the past. Help him remember some of the best highlights from the days of your relationship and enjoy the reminiscing while simultaneously working to get him back.

Try to become your ex’s friend first and foremost, because if he wants you back, he will eventually let you know. Be his friend, open up to him, show him a nice time, and if his feelings for you are rekindled, he will let you know. Take things slowly and don’t act too needy. Instead, just play it cool and let him come to you. If things are meant to be, they will be, and you will learn how to get him back through the process.

These are just the beginning steps in winning your Ex back. These are the steps I followed when I lost the love of my life. And frankly these aren’t my original ideas. I turned to T ‘Dub’ Jackson when I had no idea of how to get my true love back back.

T ‘Dub’ authored a simple, down to earth step by step plan called “The Magic Of Making Up“. And you know, it worked like magic for us. Now we are more in love than ever.