Keeley knew it was time to be moving on.  Break up with her boyfriend Joe had just happened.  She knew there was no chance of getting back together, so she had to get on with her life.

First, Keeley tried talking to her friends about the break up.  At first, they were sympathetic.  But soon, they became bored with the topic and wanted to talk about their own issues.  Keeley became frustrated at their lack of support.

Her mom, on the other hand, couldn’t talk about anything but Joe.  She thought Keeley was insane to let him get away.  It sometimes seemed like her mom had been more in love with Joe than Keeley ever was.

After a few weeks, Keeley decided to go to a therapist for five sessions.  Over the course of a few weeks, she began to identify the problems which had led to the break up and plan out a strategy for moving on.

The first thing she did was to for the moving on break up was to get rid of all of Joe’s things.  Some, like the leather jacket he loved, she gave back.  Other things like his toothbrush she just threw away.  And, he had given her some nice jewelry, but she decided to box these up and store them until she became less emotional about Joe.

Next, she started doing things that she didn’t feel comfortable doing when Joe was around.  For instance, Joe would never go to the ballet with her.  Keeley had trained as a classical dancer and she appreciated Swan Lake and Giselle.  When a performance came to town, she got a couple of girlfriends together and they went.  This is not something she would have done if she had been together with Joe.

She also decided to join an adult dance class.  Partially, it got her out of the house two nights a week.  It also got her back into shape.  But, she was able to meet new people as well.  She liked the comraderie of the class.

She also explored new passions.  She never knew much about fine wines.  Joe had preferred beer and she had usually just ordered the house white.  But when she heard a local winery was offering a wine tasting class, she decided to join.

Over the course of five weeks, she developed a palate.  She began to appreciate the difference between a young wine and an old wine.

And, she met Rodney.  Rodney was a good looking lawyer who was interested in good wine and fine food.  He was also interested in Keeley.

Part of how Keeley knew that she was getting over the pain of losing Joe was that she was interested in Rodney.

Keeley doesn’t know whether the relationship with Rodney is going to be long term or a short term rebound fling.  But she does know that she doesn’t miss Joe when Rodney is around.  And that’s moving on break up advice!

Do you know how to win ex back?  When a woman has left a man, she probably has a good reason, at least in her own mind.  Thus, you have to be prepared to battle for her heart if you want to win ex back.

A relationship has a beginning, a middle and an end.  The question is whether you are in the middle and just taking a hiatus or whether it is really over and you are at the end.

If your girlfriend wants to start the relationship anew, you need to be able to work things out on a fresh start.  You should plan out your steps ahead of time if you want the new relationship to work out better than the old one did.

First of all, consider why you broke up.  Were there underlying problems that plagued your relationship?  If so, how can you fix them going forward?

Second, analyze why you want your ex back.  Do you just feel lonely because she’s not around?  If so, any woman will do.  But, if you have a hole in your heart that only she will fill, that’s different.

Third, you need to become the person that she needs.  Think back to what you were like when she fell in love with you.  Have you changed?  Did you stop doing interesting things when you devoted all of your time to her?  Have you stopped going to the gym thinking that there’s no reason to stay in shape now that you’ve snagged the girl?  Become the person she wants to win ex back.

Fourth, consider that the first thing you say to your ex after a break up may be the most important words ever to come out of your mouth.  The wrong words can change the balance of the relationship.  Don’t beg her to come back.  Don’t do anything to irritate her.  She probably still harbors good feelings for you and you don’t want to do anything that would change this.

Fifth, you can use the good memories you’ve built to your advantage.  Talk about the good times you had.  If she gave you a special sweater, wear it when you know she’s going to be around.  If you can, arrange to meet at a place that has meaning for you for a quick drink.

Sixth, try to mirror her words and body language.  If she uses an uncommon word, try to work it into the conversation yourself.  If she places her left hand on her cheek, do the same.  Don’t overdo it or be obvious, but this kind of “mirror imaging” gets you back in synch.

Seventh, let her know that you are thinking about her.  Go out of your way to send her a card on her birthday.  If you know she has a big review at work, send her an encouraging note.

By following these seven steps, you should be able to win ex back.  As long as you are still on friendly terms, you can use your friendship to become romantic once more.