Finding the best ways of handling  relationship breakups is a skill no one wants to be able to perfect.  In this case practice may make perfect but no on wants to endure the pain, confusion and humiliation once, let alone several times during their lives. The truth is though that most of us will go through it at least a couple of times. And though it sucks, having some idea of the best way to get through it may just help you keep yourself sane the next time it happens.

There  is no pill, potion, or spell that will take the pain away. The one thing that will take the pain away is time, sorry, but that’s the truth. But, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things that you can do that will help lessen the pain, or at least distract you from it for a little while. There are many things that can do that. Just make sure when you are struggling to find something to dull the pain a little that you don’t fall into the trap of using destructive things because that will only cause more pain in the long run.

1. Give yourself a very limited time to wallow, I didn’t say grieve, that will take as long as it takes. What I’m talking about  is the “don’t get dressed, eat nothing but ice cream, and don’t leave your house for a week” wallowing. That has to be a limited time offer. It can be up to a week, but that’s it. Even though you’ll still be hurting after a week it’s time to get back out in the world and live your life.  Before you move out of this stage though you should put away all the pictures and knick knacks that remind you of your ex. You probably shouldn’t throw them away, you might want to some day, but wait until you’re out of pain and you’re sure you want to get rid of them. For now just stow them away in the basement or attic, out of sight.

2. Once you’ve gotten past the wallowing and you’re in the ‘I’m alive, though barely’ stage spend as much time as possible doing things that are fun (or at least you used to think  they were fun before this pain started).  Spend as much time doing positive things with positive people as you can.  It won’t take away the pain but it may dull it for short periods of time and that can help enormously.

One word of caution: do not get involved with anyone sexually or romantically at this point. You’re not ready and you’ll either feel guilty afterward or you’ll hurt an innocent person. Just take some time to be on your own romantically until your truly ready to move on, and if you really loved your ex, that won’t happen for a while.

Relationship breakups stink, sorry, but there’s no polite way to say it. Just do what you can to move through the grieving stage as quickly and easily as possible and believe that some day you will meet someone wonderful, again.

Relationship breakups are a terrible thing, and are devastating for most people. What most people want, more than anything else, is to find someone to spend their lives with, someone who will always be there for you. Thinking you have this and then losing it is one of the worst events most people will suffer in their life.

After relationship breakups, people tend to suffer from the same kind of emotional healing process that people who have suffered the death of a loved one. This isn’t surprising, since the death of a relationship is very much like the death of someone. But unlike the death of a person, sometimes something can be done to take back the death of a relationship.

Relationship breakups do not have to be forever in many cases. Far more relationships can be saved than those that are permanently destroyed. What you have to know and understand is the various kinds of relationship breakups that exists and what you can do about them.

This article is going to give you a brief look into the kinds of relationship breakups and what strategies you’ll need to undertake to fix them. Not all relationships can be repaired, and not all of them should be, but most of them can. You just need to know the right techniques for each kind of breakup.

The Abusive Relationship Breakups

This is a breakup that should stay a break up. Unlike the other relationship breakups, this one can and should stick. There’s a chance that you may be considering returning to someone who physically or mentally abused you, but you need to stick with this kind of breakup. No one should take being abused.

The Mutual Breakup

Sometimes, both people in the relationship may want out and the relationship ends by mutual consent. Now, if this is truly a mutual breakup, there’s a good chance that this is another relationship that shouldn’t be repaired. On the other hand, if it was just called a relationship and was really one of the next two kinds of relationship breakups, that’s a different matter entirely.

They Broke Up with You

This is usually the most hurtful kind of break up. If this has happened to you, what you need to do first is figure out exactly why the relationship ended. Once you know this, you have to decide if what went wrong is something you could or should fix. If it is something you can and should fix, then this needs to be your starting point.

You Broke Up with Them

Sometimes, we break up with people and then realize we’ve thrown away something good. When this happens, the first thing you need to do is reestablish trust. This means that you’re going to essentially start the relationship over. Start slow, with coffee dates or something similar, and then work your way slowly towards repairing the relationship.

No matter which of the relationship breakups you’ve experienced, you need to be aware that help is out there. You just need to find the right kind of advice and instruction to allow you to mend feeling and repair your relationship with your ex.