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Relationship Advice

If you want to be happy in your relationship, let me give you a little relationship advice. C-0-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E with each other about E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. If an issue comes up tackle it immediately. Every relationship will have issues, no one is perfect and that includes the two of you.

You will hit a rough patch sooner or later. It does not matter what the rough patch is all about, just know that there will be one. Hitting a rough spot does not mean that the relationship has to be over, in fact, hitting a rough spot and making it through will make your relationship stronger and more able to handle the next rough patch that comes along.

Trusting your spouse is very important. It can keep you both secure in how you handle the relationship. Some people trust just as a matter of course and take it away only if something happens for them to feel like they can no longer trust. Some make you earn the trust they put in you and are completely devastated if that trust is broken.

Some also feel that it is trust, not love, that will make or break a relationship. If trust is not there or has been betrayed then it may take quite a bit of groveling to get it back, if you ever do. Some important relationship advice, be so ready to kiss some serious booty if you are the betrayer. You have your work cut out for you.

You are in love, no one is disputing that, but in all seriousness doesn’t it do you some good every now and again to just get the heck away from each other? It should. Go out separately with friends or spend the day with family. Give each other a break and just go your own separate ways like one day a week. You will be healthier for it and will also come back with stories to tell about how your day went. You both will appreciate the other that much more because of this.

When conflict does come up, it is very important to know how to handle yourselves decently in a fight. No finger pointing, or name calling, keep the fight fair. Learn how to compromise. If there is mutual respect in the relationship all of this will be very easy to maintain. Respect will lead to negotiation which, in turn, will lead to a compromise that the both of you can live with.

Being able to compromise in any given situation lets you both have your say and lets you both see that your opinion matters. When what you have to say matters then no one can ever have the upper hand and the two of you can truly call yourselves partners.

Following good relationship advice and dealing with the issues as they surface will help the two of you feel so much more secure in your relationship and the stronger and more secure you are the longer the relationship will last. With just a little work, your relationship can be one of the best around.

How To Get Over Someone You Love

How To Get Over Someone You Love

Going through a break up is never an enjoyable experience. Even if the two of you split up on friendly terms, there will be some negative feelings. You will feel hurt, angry, guilty and confused. Such emotions are to be expected, but there is one feeling that may be harder to deal with, and that is how to get over someone you love. Don’t worry, all of this is completely normal.

Before you start trying to get over your ex, you need to make sure that’s what you really want to do. Your emotions will be running high after a break up, and it’s easy to confuse one feeling for another. So, it’s very possible that the reason you can’t get over them is because you don’t want to…you just think you do.

Yes, it can be confusing, so you need to calm down first. You need to let the dust of the broken relationship settle for a while before you make any permanent decisions. There is always a chance that you will realize that you want to try to work things out. However, for the rest of this article, we will assume that you have already thought it through and now you need to know how to get over someone you love.

Getting your ex out of your mind can be tricky, but it is possible. A lot of amateurs in giving out relationship advice will tell you to focus on all of the bad stuff your ex did. The thinking here is that hating them will erase them from your memory, but the opposite is true. It will only amplify their memory and it’s not fair to your ex.

A better way is to forgive your ex for all of the bad stuff they may have done. This will take away any of the power they still seem to have over you. It will also allow you to start moving forward with your own life, which takes us to the next step.

While you won’t be able to completely erase the memory of your ex from your mind, you can overpower it for a while. The way to do this is to go out and life your life to the fullest extent possible. The more things you have to occupy your time, and occupy your mind, the less space there will be for you to think about your former partner.

Finally, when it comes to how to get over someone you love you need to be realistic. It isn’t about forgetting about them 100%. After all, if you had good memories together, you should be able to look back on those in the future. But, you need to be able to move forward, so it’s important to get them out of your mind, especially right after the break up. Then, after a bit of time goes by you can start to think about them in a healthy, well-adjusted manner; without it making you feel upset.

Find yourself wanting to get your ex back? It is very typical that after a break up either one of the parties wants to get back together. If you are in such a situation you should carefully think about whether it is worth to get your ex back or not. Can you have a healthy and happy relationship with your ex?

When you feel alone and hurt the answer may seem very obvious. Of course you two are meant to be together. However, you should look at the situation objective. Be honest with yourself, can it really work out between you two? Think about the issues that led to your break up. Are those things something that can be fixed in the future?

These are things to consider when trying to get back with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. Of course, you want to be happy. However, you have to put the emotions aside in order to be objective with the situation.

Maybe you will realize that with some effort and endurance your love can be reunited, or sadly some broken fences that just can’t be mended. Sometimes it’s best just to move on.

Were the offense(s) a one-time deal or is it something that happened often? What if your partner did something to cause disharmony all the time, such as cheat, lie or other types of mistreatment? It may be pointless to try to make it work if you know you can never forgive them for cheating and could never fully trust them again.

Or was it you who was the aggressor and perhaps lose control in certain circumstances? It cannot be a happy relationship if there would always be some bitterness. Life is bittersweet, sometimes you have to weigh your options and look at the big picture.

Some personalities just don’t get along with one another. If you will always butt heads and never see eye to eye then every conversation could turn into an argument and that would be no way to live life.

But, if you are of the lucky few who indeed met someone you could call your soul mate to walk all the rest of your days with, then by all means, get your ex back!

Because your relationship ended there is a good possibility that you both said some bad things to each other. That is why the first step you should take is to apologize from your ex.

Once you have said you are sorry and truly mean it, explain why you are apologizing. It is healthy to do so because it is part of the healing process.

If you are able to admit you are wrong, this makes you only human. We all make mistakes, and admitting this makes us to realize that some things require a plenty of work and practice.

If you still love your ex, and believe that they have feelings for you too, it certainly is worth of some work to get your ex back to your arms again. Love is priceless. So, don’t miss it if you have a chance to get it back again.

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It seems like every time we turn around there is a new book or magazine article about relationship break up advice. The truth is that finding out the best way to deal with a breakup is information virtually every one will need at some point.  Whether you want to try to get your ex back, or just move on with as little pain as possible, it will take time (and having some friends around won’t hurt either).

The length of the relationship will often determine how long it will take you to move on. Most of the time, though not always, the longer the relationship and the more memories and baggage you have the longer it will take for you to stop grieving and feel like you want to meet someone new.  Even if they cheated on you or did something really bad, it will more often than not still take quite a bit of time for you to finally separate from them emotionally.

Even though we may wish we could at times, we can’t just flip a switch and turn off all the love and companionship we’d been feeling for such a long time. We will need to edge away slowly, in baby steps, until finally we can stand on our own and we’ll have moved on. The first step to this process is to get away. Maybe not literally, but figuratively. Put away all the pictures and mementos the two of you collected during your time together. Don’t call them or accept their call if they call you. You need space and time.

Everyone is different, for you it might be easier to have some friends come over and pack everything up all at once and put it in the attic.  For others it may be easier to do it in small steps, a little each day until it’s all out of sight. There is no wrong way, as long as it gets done.  Even doing something like redecorating or painting may help you get the fresh perspective that will help you.

If you’ve been meaning to buy new furniture or paint the wall in the living room, now may be the perfect time. For one thing it will give you something to do, something positive, that will keep you at least a little distracted. Another thing is that you will be changing the look of your environment which will make it a little easier to forget and move on.

No one is suggesting that a coat of paint on the wall or a new couch will make all the pain go away, but it might give you something else to focus on and take away some of the things that will trigger the painful memories of the two of you watching movies or doing the crossword puzzle on Sunday mornings. Those little memories of the seemingly unimportant times are the toughest to forget.  The best relationship break up advice I can give you is to keep moving forward in life, surround yourself with friends and family and hang in there, it does get better.

Your questions about relationship advice

Helen asks…

relationship Advice!!!?

so i had a boyfriend for about 3 weeks. No secret.
Today, we had a fight cause i wouldn’t tell him what i was whispering into my friends ear(just a girl friend).
He just gets up, says, “Fine. Dont tell me.”
then walks a few blocks to his house till my friends caught up to him and convinces him to come back. i was outside just chilling, till i see my 2 best friends talking and laughing with him.
I was mad so i didn’t talk to him at all for hours. He didn’t say a word to me also.

Now, I dont know what i should do. I do want to end our relationship before something like this happens again, or talk to him tomorrow when i see him at school and work things out. I mean you DO learn from your mistakes. But hes just so rude.
Any advice

linda answers:

how old are you? if you’re considering ending a relationship over this shiit then you must be pretty young
anyways see him at school, work things out, say sorry or ask him to apologize and live happily ever after or whatever

Maria asks…

What is the best piece of relationship advice you can give to someone?

This is just a fun question. If there was one piece of relationship advice you could share with someone, regardless of the situation that they are in, what would it me?

Mine would be that if you are thinking of ending a relationship, and you can’t see yourself breathing a sigh of relief and being happy over it all being over, there might be something left there to fight for.

linda answers:

A piece of advice? “Stay single in the first place. Relationships are SO not worth it/overrated”.

Lisa asks…

Advice needed! How do you tell how fast to pace a relationship?

I know people say that it is all up to you, that you should do what you feel comfortable with. However, parents, peers, religion, and even hormones play a role in how fast to pace a relationship. With all those contributing factors, how do you tell what you SHOULD feel comfortable with? Please, any websites that help with relationship advice for young adults, and/or personal opinion and experience would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

linda answers:

You should check out a new site I found:

adviceguru4u.webs.com

It’s an advice site, where you can ask advice about anything.
The Advice Guru is very good, and the site is worth checking out. The Advice Guru can help you with your situation. Hope this helps!

Paul asks…

Relationship ADvice?

Ok i am dating this wonderful women who i met last year in class. We have been dating for 1 year and 2 months. I found out she likes this other guy? How should i confront her about this? should i be worried about htis? is this a normal thing? Will this affect our Relationship?

linda answers:

It’s normal for women to look at other guys and find them attractive- just like men do with other women. But if she actually wants to be with another guy or really likes him than something is wrong. It will end up affecting your relationship because she likes something about this other guy that you must not have. She will always compare you to him in her head. I’m not trying to sound mean- but if she likes another guy than she probably wants to try new things- as in new men. I would suggest that you find out if she likes him as a friend or as someone she could date. If you didn’t hear it from her- it may just be a rumor. Ask her and than make a decision if you want to be with someone that wants to be with other guys. Good luck!

Ken asks…

Relationship ADVICE!!?

I dated a guy and we dated for about and year and were totally extremely in love. But at the beginning of this year we had a mutual break up. A few weeks later I had a new boyfriend (I know this makes me sound kind of like a slut but I liked this guy for awhile and I thought I was over the other guy). Both of these guys are best friends by the way. Anyhow, now I’ve been going out with this guy for about 3 months. But I feel so different! I don’t like how I am feeling about this relationship I like him so much but it just isn’t the same as my last relationship and I am missing my ex- boyfriend even more. My ex-boyfriend now is trying to have a relationship with one of my best friends and it seems like he is purposely flaunting it in my face. I think he still has feelings for me because he always asks about my new relationship and asks how far we have gone, he throws the girl he likes in my face and today he just asked me to kiss him. I don’t know inside guys brains but he acts like he likes me. I just don’t want to get hurt again and the guy I am dating I like him so much! But I just miss my ex so much and the memories we had together. What should I do?

I could…
A.) Stay with my boyfriend now and act like everything is perfect
B.)Tell my boyfriend I still have feelings for my ex but I want to be with him still.
C.)Tell him I can’t be with him anymore, and tell my ex how I feel.
D.)You tell me!

linda answers:

You’re are no married to either one of these guys, you should be honest to your current boyfriend and let him know you still have feelings for you ex-boyfriend, don’t be and such a rush of having to being tried down to one person, or dating on person, because if you give all of yourself to your current boyfriend and he brakes up with you, you will be stuck because you didn’t leave your options open, If your current boyfriend is mature than he would understand, where you are coming from, guys had been playing the field for years, why not do the same. do tie yourself down so fast, get to know this new guy more instead of committing to be with him, and it doesn’t make you sound like a slut, you have the right to evaluate who you want to be with, just as guys do, we really need to let go of the stereotype, that women are sluts if they choose to date more than one man, who cares what people thing, do what makes you happy, do you!.

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