Mending Broken Heart- Sooner Better Than Later

Love can be cruel sometimes as is evident in some relationships. If mending broken hearts seems to be a reoccurring theme in your life then you need to sit back and reevaluate what is happening to cause this vicious cycle to occur in the first place.

No one likes having their heart broken, but they especially don’t like for it to happen repeatedly. The bad part is when someone doesn’t know that it is coming. That makes the pain even worse. When this happens the first step is to look back and see if there were any warning signs.

Sometimes signs are evident to others, but the person that it is happening to is oblivious to what is going on. This might be because they are preoccupied with the situation or they are just trying to ignore it in the hopes that it will go away. Were there any signs that this was going to occur? If so, you have to find out why they occurred in the first place.

Even though losing love is hard it is not the end of the world. Undoubtedly, the one who is hurt will hear this from others, but it is, in fact, the truth. This is a time to be with others and be surrounded with friends and family. This is not the time to hear people bashing your partner, unless it is obviously justified. The key here is to get out of the house. Sitting around just invites in pity and sorrow, which is something that is not going to help at this point.

The sooner that the hurt individual gets back out into the world the easier the recovery time will be. Letting things languish only drags out the pain. They should never try to contact the other person since further rejection will only open up old wounds. If it is meant to be they will see the separation as an eye-opening experience.

After you have had some time to heal then the last step is to sit down and see what you have learned. Were you too needy? Did you rush the relationship and possibly scare them away? Or were they possibly the wrong person for you? If you think about it enough the answer will present itself to you. Have a good friend sit down with you and talk it over. Sometimes a different view can bring things into perspective. Just remember: mending broken hearts is not easy, but it is possible.

Kristi was devastated.  She wanted to get back together with ex boyfriend Thad.  Thad had told her that he needed some “space.”  Thad said that he still cared for her but didn’t want to date exclusively any more.

What should Kristi do to get back together with ex Thad?  Should she call him and text him?  Should she show up and flirt with his friends?  Should she ignore him completely?

Actually, she should do none of these.  Instead, she should listen to him.

He says that he loves her but that he needs space.  While this may seem like a cliché, the truth is that many times when people use this line they mean what they say.

Sometimes a relationship just gets ahead of a person.  They may not be ready for the responsibilities a relationship carries.  But that doesn’t mean that they don’t love their ex.  In fact, they may love him or her too much and want to take a step back.

Given that this is the case, let’s take a look at what disasterous things can happen if you handle the situation badly.

For instance, if Kristi were to endlessly pursue Thad with calls, emails and texts, she wouldn’t be giving him the space he needed to get his head on straight.  Letters, gifts, and singing songs under his window late at night would have the same effect.

One of Kristi’s friends suggested that she start flirting with all of Thad’s friends to make him jealous in an attempt to get back together with ex.  This is a common recommendation because it is assumed that men will want what other men have.  The problem is that by playing games now, Kristi would be jeopardizing her relationship in the future.  And, there is a strong likelihood that Thad would just be angry at Kristi and push her even further away.

Another option Kristi considered was just ignoring him altogether.  In some ways, because she was so hurt by Thad’s rejection, she wanted to punish him in turn.

But, if she is open and receptive but not pushy when they meet each other in social situations that are not contrived, she shows him what a wonderful woman and wonderful human being she is.  She becomes someone that he wants to spend time with.  She has allowed him to see her at her best.

Kristi has a number of options if she wants to get back together with ex.  But, her best option is simply to listen to Thad.  He’s said he needs space.  So, she should give it to him.  She should let him have the opportunity to decide whether to get back together.

My guess is that Thad will come back to Kristi and he’ll be ready to take the relationship to the next level.  If Kristi plays her cards right, she will have a stronger relationship overall.

That’s how to get ex back in a healthy way.