I lost love because I did something stupid, how can I get it back?  Unfortunately that question, or variations of it, has been asked millions of times by millions of people throughout history. If you are one of those people there are some things that you can do to help yourself win back that person that you just can’t seem to get over or get out of your heart.

Your approach will be different depending on your unique circumstances but remember that even if your ex is with someone else, that up to 90% of rebound relationships don’t work out and in most cases the couple end up breaking up within six months.

That should give you some hope, and a little breathing room, while you figure things out. The first thing you have to do is to figure out why you did the stupid thing that you did. Were you lashing out at your ex because they said or did something that hurt your feelings, if so, you better learn to grow up and hold your tongue the next time around. Find better ways of dealing with these types of situations, there are right ways and wrong ways of doing things, find the right way.

Was it a case that you were just selfish or insensitive (or maybe both) this too is a signof immaturity, so if you really want to make things work when you are able to get back your ex, you’d better make some changes sooner rather than later.  If you don’t change your behavior, you won’t change the outcome and you’ll be right back saying I lost love because I did someting stupid… again.

A good thing to do is to apologize, sincerely, and explain why you did what you did and what you plan to do to make some changes. A lot of times just having a set ‘game plan’ that you can explain to your ex to let them know you are serious about making changes, will go a very long way to winning back the ex you’ve wronged. Make sure that you can present a specific plan otherwise it might just seem like lip service.

It’s never going to work if you don’t prove to your ex that you’ve made real change and that you’re 100% committed to making yourself a better person, and a better partner.  If you can convince them that you are serious, they’ll have a slightly easier time of trusting you. Remember, that the stupid things you did before caused your ex a lot of pain, and they’re going to think twice before they risk that kind of hurt again. They need to believe that you won’t hurt them again, and just saying it won’t cut it most of the time.

Do not cause yourself, and others, needless pain by continually repeating the same old stupid patterns of behavior over and over again. Instead save yourself a lot of pain and keep yourself from ever having to say ‘I lost love because I did something stupid’ ever again.

Understanding how to win back a love lost is something that we are not taught.  So when the time comes and we need to actually make up with someone who’s walked out on us, someone we still love, it can be a frustrating hit and miss affair.  So here’s your chance to once and for all, discover how to win back your love and keep them.

Don’t make the mistake of chasing after your ex, especially if the breakup is fresh and raw.  If the drama of what went on is still ringing in your ears then you need to back off and give your ex some space.  Pursuing them now will only do two things: drive them further away and make your job of winning them back that much harder.  So stop all communication with your ex and walk away.

While you’re away from your ex you should ideally spend a good amount of that time looking after yourself and being kind to yourself.  Even if you made a big mistake that caused the breakup, you still need to forgive yourself and be kind to yourself.  To win back a love you need to be firing on top form and sitting home night after night feeling sorry for yourself won’t do.

So get out and about and find your old friends and have some fun with them.  If you need to make new friends, then do that.  Not only will doing this keep you occupied and stop you being tempted to contact your ex, but it will also go a long way to boosting your self-esteem and and self-confidence.  Both of which you’re going to need big time to win back a love who’s walked out.

Another good tip is to take some regular exercise.  I know not everyone cares for the gym, but it doesn’t have to be such an obvious choice.  Think about regular walks, a dancing class or a regular swim. Whichever exercise routine you decide is right for you, by taking exercise you will be releasing endorphins and endorphins are known to foster all round feelings of good health, encourage and boost energy, help you with your focus and keep your weight under control.  All of which are crucial to keep you believing that you can win back a love and help you make the right decisions to do so.

It’s the easiest thing in the world to get dumped and find that you’re sitting around doing nothing but gaining weight and losing your confidence, so follow through on what’s been laid out here and your chances of success are set.