When making up with my boyfriend I tried to remember these tips that my older and wiser friend had given me.

Myself and my ex got back together so I hope they work for you too.

1) Men don’t like chit chat: Generally speaking men don’t like to talk in depth about their feelings and  forcing the issue will just cause them to clam up even more. So when you are trying to get back together, don’t force him to analyze what went wrong. If he behaved badly but is willing to apologize, accept it and move on.

2) Men can only concentrate on one thing at a time.  This is really true so don’t try and fight it. Very few  men can multitask and it is their genetics that are to blame so shouting at him is pointless.  The sooner  you accept that your man cannot listen to you while reading his newspaper or watching TV the better. Most of the time, he is not ignoring you on purpose. The more you try to understand that this is the way he is programmed the less arguments you will have.

3) Men like toys. The joke is that men never grow up and show it by still playing with toys.  Most men love to build things and start DIY jobs. Not all of them like to finish these jobs which can cause problems at home. Let your man indulge his hobbies, within reason. You can spend time with your girlfriends while he is fishing or building a boat. By compromising like this, he will probably be much more willing to spend time with you doing things together that you both enjoy.

4) Don’t assume that your man knows that you want to make up with him. Men in general tend to be a bit slow in picking up signals especially about relationships. For this reason, you sometimes need to be very direct  and tell them exactly how you feel. Men don’t like games unless they understand the rules like in Golf or Chess. Us women change the rules on dating more often than men change their shirts so we need to give them a break if they get a little confused.

5) Have you heard the joke – “Why does it take loads of sperm to fertilize one egg?  Because they refuse to  stop for directions!”  I know the men in my life would prefer to get lost, than admit defeat and stop to ask for directions.  Generally men find it very hard to admit they are wrong. If you question what they say, they can believe you are implying they have done something wrong.  This can cause problems in modern relationships as women are so used to being the boss at work and giving others directions.

I am not suggesting that women have to become door mats or defer to their partners. But a little understanding of genetics goes a long way to help resolve the question of making up with my boyfriend.

I have one question for you: do you want to save your marriage?  If the answer is yes, you have a hard road ahead of you.  But, before you start down that path, you have to answer this question in the affirmative.

Take a hard look at the state of your marriage.  Is this the person you want to be with in five years?

If not, you don’t need to read any further.  Just go down to the closest divorce attorney.

Still with me?  Good.  I’m going to show you how to save your marriage.

Once you have decided that your marriage is worth saving, you can start to do the work that is necessary.  Don’t even think about going to the divorce lawyer any more.  You’ve made the commitment to stick with your relationship.

Now that you have put divorce out of your mind, accept that there will have to be changes in the relationship.  If you want the relationship to work more than your partner does, then you are the one who is going to have to do the most changing.  That’s a simple fact.  It is like the person who has the bigger aversion to messiness usually does the most cleaning around the house.  The person who wants the relationship to work more will have to do the most changing.

You have to be prepared to talk more too.  Set aside time to get to know your partner once again.  If he or she has hobbies that they are willing to share with you, get involved even if you are not all that into darts or scrap-booking.

If your partner is willing to agree to it, marriage counseling may be what you need to save your marriage.  A relationship counselor or therapist will be able to look at your marriage from the outside, ask probing questions, and get you to open up to each other.

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship.  Once you have the “ideal” out of your head, you will be able to work on what is real and what is good.  These are the standards you should be applying to your marriage.

Do you want to save your marriage?  Good.  But know the hard work lies ahead.

Many girls want to know, “can me and my boyfriend get back together?”  Well, part of the answer to that question depends on you and part depends on your ex boyfriend.  This video will look at the things you can do to make it more likely that you and your boyfriend can get back together.

First of all, you need to demonstrate that you have learned from past mistakes.  You should look at what didn’t work the first time around and see if you can improve on it.  Did he complain that you spent too much time with your girl friends?  Then, plan to spend more time with him if you get back together.

The next thing you need to do is remind him of all of the good things in your relationship.  Who were you when you first got together?  Has anything changed?  For instance, when you got together were you a bubbly outgoing girl who had lots of things on your plate?  Then, as you got more involved with him, did you drop a lot of your activities?  Maybe he dropped you because you weren’t as engaging as you used to be.

Put your hurt feelings aside and look at how you can support your ex boyfriend.  While he’s just a friend now, by being there to support him, maybe you can turn the relationship back into something more.

If his friends were critical of you, that may have been the reason behind the break up.  Try to win his friends over as they have a great deal of influence on who he chooses to date.

One of the most powerful tools you have to get your ex boyfriend back is to reminisce about the good times you shared.  As you put the positive memories in his mind, he will feel more like getting back together with you.

Go to the places you used to go together and do the activities you used to do together.  Not only will this make it more likely that you will just “run in” to your ex boyfriend, you will also be developing the hobbies that he enjoys.  Also, if there was a pastime that he encouraged you to take up while you were in the relationship, you might want to consider doing it now.  It will signal to him that you have changed and have become even more interesting.

Always look your best.  You never know when you might run into him.  Guys are so much more visual that girls are.  So, your appearance matters.

Be a positive person.  Guys don’t like depressed, whining girls.  Be positive and upbeat around all kinds of people – but especially your ex!

But, whatever you do, don’t be too obvious that you are trying to get your ex boyfriend back.  The pressure will make him like you less, not more.

You will notice that the advice I’ve given you here will make you a more attractive girlfriend whether it is for your ex or for a new guy.  That’s because improving yourself will always get you a boyfriend.