Couples split up for all sorts of reasons but I firmly believe that it takes two to tango.  Yes, he may have had an affair or she may have a drink problem but at the end of the day it is usually too simple to lay the blame for the break up at one person’s feet.

But when a relationship ends it should be final unless both of you decide that you wish to get back together.  Otherwise, move on. Don’t waste your time or energy trying to think of ways to destroy his life or pick fights with her new man.

Every man or woman over the age of 21 has been dumped at some point in their lives.  If they say they haven’t, they are probably lying.  Breaking up can be extremely painful – you only have to see how many films and songs are written on the subject.  Even classic books involve painful relationships – have you read Jane Eyre lately?

Relationships of all types make the world go round and it would be a very boring place if we were happy all of the time.  Stories such as Cinderella and sleeping Beauty end when the couple kiss and we all believe they will live happily ever after.  Cinders and Beauty have found their Mr Right, but what they don’t know is that his first name is always!

Life is too short to live it out with a grudge against someone else.  The only person that will suffer will be you and those that love you.  Your ex will be long gone – do you really think that they give you more than a fleeting thought.  They didn’t care enough about you to stay together so why would they care now?

There are plenty of lovely people for you to date and perhaps fall in love with. But you will never find a fulfilling new relationship if your life is consumed by hatred for someone else.  Being on your own for the first time in a long time can be tough but it can also be liberating. Think positively – you now have the chance to do all the things you wanted to do but your partner wasn’t interested in.

Make a list of twenty things you have to be thankful for and read this every night before you fall asleep.  Add five things to your list every day and you will soon find yourself enjoying life so much that you won’t have time to worry about how to get back at your ex. It will be more like ex who?

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1 – Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you’ve moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

2 – Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

3 – Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

4 – Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

5 – Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.

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