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Friday, January 21st, 2011 at 12:05 am  
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Richard asks…

How can I do something for fun while waiting for divorce paper to come through?

This is entering my five months of bein’ seprated by soon-2-be ex husband and gettin’ better each time dealin’. I am wondering since my soon-2-be husband (which he is ninthteen by now) and my lawyer was tellin’ me that I can do whatever I want to do, he also including dating as well. So can you give me some advice or any thoughts?

Thanks
Really I am older than 19… I am seven years older than he is… ***was my frist love***
I know that… That is why I am tryin’ to explain to that **can I say a youngun** that… Being married is a long term commitment and I loved him and thought we were *can I say* “Meant to be” for each other…

So now I know it is a miskate and a lesson for me to learn from… Now since he left me it made me realize that it can hurt even worst…. Now I just want to have fun and try to move on until something else better comes along…

linda answers:

Date. Go nuts. Check your baggage at the terminal before embarking on a relationship though. Respect yourself though. This must be a difficult time for you and the last thing you’d want is to come into a meaningless relationship. Get to really know the other person. Need I say, get closer to God too. Go to church.

Sandra asks…

I need some dating advice please…?

I’ve asked out and been rejected by 13 girls this past half year… I planned on the 14th girl to be the last one I ask out, if it didn’t work out I just planned on not dating. So I meet this girl and really start crushing on her. I ask her out she accepts, we have a lot in common. I ask her to dinner and we have a good time and she kisses me. After a few more dates (which included holding hands and kissing) I ask her where we stood, she says she didn’t want to be in a realationship and only wanted to date. Saying that realationships were to stressing during tge school time ( which I didn’t really understand the difference, but I agreed, then she kissed me again)
Ever since then I’ve tried to text her every other day or so to see how her day was going (to show I was thinking of her/ cared) and I noticed that as time went on I got less detailed responses till I just started getting “I’m fine” responses that could not be expanded on. Now we’ve been dating for about a month and gone on maybe 4 or 5 dates. Last week she was too busy to hang out with me and had stuff to do, understandable. This week we had a date planned for Monday she cancelled saying she was just too tired and stressed and resheduled for Thursday.then she cancels completly tonight.

Today in class I was talking with her and say that next week is our one month aniversary of us dating. She pulls me outside and procceds to tell me that she had been so upity this last week because her grandmother passed last night and the funeral was on Friday. Also that this was getting to “realationship-y” , stuff like going out on a spisific day for an aniversary seemed to much like a realationship (I didn’t think so, I thought it what people who dated for a while like that did). I ask her if she means she just wanted me to back off and she says yeah. She likes “hanging out ” (I noticed she didn’t say dating) with me and would like to keep doing that. I ask her what I was doing that I should back up on, but she couldn’t really answer, saying she’s dated before and that i’m still learning or something along those lines. I told her to call me whenever she wanted to hang out again. Btw I hate the term…”hanging out”. Every time I ask a girl out on a date or show her I like her… BAM “Oh! You like me, I thought we were just hanging out” and it never goes well from there.

So that’s it… I don’t really know what to do… I might break up with her( I mean stop going out with her, can’t break up unless you’re in a realationship, stupid me) I know if I keep being around her my feelings will just increase and It could turn into love (it happened before) and it will really. Really hurt if she says she just wants to e friends.but I know for sure I won’t be texting or calling her again. She said she would call me, but experience and having feelings broken many times tells me she won’t. (every girl of the 13 has told me this, to this day, none of them have called me)

I’m so confused, this is the closest i’ve been in to anything even coming close to a realationship or just being more than friends with a girl. I don’t know what to do :(

linda answers:

Shes a slut BREAK UP WITH HER! its the best thing you can do!

Nancy asks…

Ladies only please: serious dating advice needed for a love-shy guy?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love-shy – this essentially describes my current situation with women. At age 30 and despite many professional successes and being told I’m a very nice and caring person by many people, I have never had a g/f or been in a relationship (ever).

To try to fix the relationship situation, and b/c repeated efforts at online dating just didn’t work for me, I signed up for a local brick-and-mortar matchmaking service that tries to match people looking for serious and long-term relationships, with the ultimate goal of matching people with persons that would make good potential partners for an eventual married relationship. Criteria used to match are based on compatibility, numerous scientific personality assessments, and other character assessments. I am guaranteed nearly 30 unique matches for potential dates, which the agency coordinates.

So the first match arrived by postal mail today, with the a summary of the match’s interests, profile, and phone number included. To set up the actual date, I have to call the match to ask her out and take it from there to see how things go. However, given the approach being used and my inexperience with relationships, what would you recommend actually talking about with the match on the first phone call? Also any recommendations on what would be a good first date idea? Thanks!

linda answers:

Well my advice is to just phone and when she answers, first of all introduce yourself and tell her you’d be interested in taking her out and getting to know her better.
If phone chat isn’t your strong point, then keep it short and simple. Just introduce yourself, make the arrangements, tell her it wasnice to have spoken to her and end the call.You can ask her questions and get to know her better on the date. If there are any awkward silences you could ask her a few questions like what specifically is she looking for? What kind of man is she interested in…etc.
As a date idea, I would ask her on the phone if she has anything in particular that she’d like to do. If she doesn’t (which I guarentee she won’t but it’s always nice to be asked ) then tell her you will set the date up and have it all planned. (which is always nice) Theres nothing worse than going on an unplanned date and taking an hour just to decide what to do.
Anyway, I don’t know you, so it’s hard to say what a good date idea would be for the two of you. Maybe go golfing together, then out to a nice dinner at a decent restaurant. Good luck! =)

Steven asks…

Dating Advice- should I get in contact?

Ok I met this guy on the internet and we have chatted and text everyday for 2 weeks now. He lives about 45 minutes away from me. separated with 3 children, currently living with family till finds somewhere of their own. I asked him out for a drink last week but as he has his children it was too short notice. We have lots of things in common including classical music, so I thought he may like to see a concert as we had chatted about it and knew we definitely wanted to meet each other. Since asking last Thursday I have not a reply to my invitation but have still continued to chat, however yesterday I have had no texts or contact at all, nor today so far.
Should I take this as ominous? as we have been in contact every day so far. I am over reacting. Should I get in contact? I did send a text yesterday saying that I hoped everything was OK but no reply?
Advice on these would be great- I don’t want to seem desperate as I really would like to meet him, but I also don’t want to be wasting my time and making a fool out of myself.

linda answers:

Investigate all before meeting. Late is better than remorse of losing

John asks…

Need advice on dating a seperated man that still needs a divorce?

I have been dating a married but seperated man for about a year and a half. He also has 2 kids, 5 and 2. I’ve had nothing but stress in this relationship and he is extremely lazy. he lets everything in his life go including his car, has a crappy job and can barely afford to take care of his kids. He has had to move back in with his mother. Can this relationship really work or am i wasting my time?

linda answers:

It sounds like you already know in your heart that this situation is problematic, which doesn’t mean that this man is a good or bad person. You should be selective with who you spend your time and how you spend your time. Sure, everyone has problems but right off the bat you know this guy is still married. There’s a reason why this relationship hasn’t been legally determined. You mention that you have had “nothing but stress in this relationship”–is this really how you envisioned a relationship? People who are married, especially with children, have a lot of ties and history. This situation would have more potential if he was at least divorced. Personally, I dated someone who was recently divorced. Generally speaking, guys don’t sort and process things the way women do (we want closure darnit!) so it could take awhile for this man to be able to really look at his life and figure out what he wants. Don’t just sit around waiting for him to get things together when Mr. Much-Closer-to-Perfect could be right around the corner.

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Your questions about commitment issues dating relationship advice

Thursday, January 20th, 2011 at 12:05 am  
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Jenny asks…

Relationship Advice! Is commitment an issue to women that act like this? Kindly read.?

Me and this girl were dating for 3 months. All of a sudden she says that she feels its not going anywhere. BUT she calls me and texts me like we are still dating. Do you think she just needs time. Today she texts me twice and calls me and I didn’t respond until an hour later and she thinks I am ignoring her. Is this a game???? I really like her and i felt we really never got to know eachother well enough. Would she still miss me if i just back off and would that be my only chance. We clicked very very well. Had sex 2 times and enjoyed each other company. Anyone have any life experiences to share etc.. I am 30 she 26.Why would she think I am ignoring her if she broke it off? Any advice or anything .. PLEASE. Could she just be thinking of still being with me? What does a girl think in this situation.
Last night she invited me out to dinner then back to her house. I told her I thought she was confused and unsure of what she wanted. She really didn’t say much to that. We were happy together last night. She keeps saying we are friends but I don’t understand. Could it be she is just starting to have a lot of feelings and she is now terrified of being hurt or is she just being nice?? Next day I told her I was moving on and she was scared? Later that night we hung out and she had sex with me and she is starting to get close with me again! She now keeps talking about relationship stuff with me? Is this my second chance? Is she just fearful of commitment or what? Any Advice/Life experiences to share??

linda answers:

She’s scared of commitment but she doesn’t want to be alone.
I was in a relationship with a man two years older than myself who acted just like this. I figured that he did it because on the surface he fancied himself as a player but deep down he was terrified of being alone.
She’s keeping you dangling so that if she feels like no one wants her, she can call you and know that you’ll come running.

Tell her straight that you don’t understand and if she continues to show nothing but disrespect for your feelings, ignore her.
:) xxx

Ken asks…

I think I have commitment issues… any help, advice, or anything else it could be?

Im 15 and in highschool. Ive been asked out by some guys this year and as much as i want a long-term relationship, i cant seem to do it. I have a lot of friends who have been with their boyfriends for a year or 2 and are still together. i want that. When i finally get the guy i like to ask me out and i say yes, i get really uncomfortable and want to be with other guys and not with the guy who asked me out. ive tried to force myself to be happy, but i just can’t seem to do it. i would NEVER cheat though. the longest ive had a relationship for was 8 months and thats when i forced myself but it just made me feel worse. ive only dated about 7 guys (i dont make it official until we kiss, usually on the 2nd or 3rd date) and they were all really nice and seem to have cared about me, but i just kept criticizing them in my head even though i really liked them before. Before i started dating them, they looked perfect, i loved their personalities, everything about them, but as soon as westarted dating, it changed, i seemed to uncontrolably look for every little flaw they had. I havent had any trauma. my parants have been together for 23 years and are still going strong. Any help or advice?

linda answers:

Its just a phase and you will get through it but you cant make yourself sorry. I went through it too and so have my friends, its different for everyone in the way it happens but, i think it must just be part of growing up. It passes like every phase. I was with a guy who really liked me, even said he loved me and i thought he was awesome but I couldnt stay with him, i’d be at parties with him, but atttracted to different guys and then wanted to be with them instead, i broke it off and we stayed friends, and then i past through my phase and we ended up back together. I’d be with him forever given the chance so i dont think you have commitment issues, its just life :P x

Sandra asks…

Commitment issues??

Whenever I start dating someone I am perfectly happy and content dating them for about 2 months and then something just snaps. I start trying to avoid them. I don’t like being around him or even answering his phone calls. It’s been like this with every relationship I have ever had with a guy. I have never been hurt so I don’t feel like I’m trying to protect myself.
I have managed to stick it out for 6 months now with my current boyfriend. I am getting to that point where I don’t want to do anything with him anymore. I actually dread having to talk to him. This isn’t how I want to feel, but I can’t help it. He keeps telling me that he loves me, and that if I were to break up with him he would never be able to trust a woman ever again. I don’t want to hurt him. He’s a great guy. but I feel like I am incapable of loving anyone other than my friends and family. I just don’t feel the same way.
I don’t know what is wrong with me. I just need some advice. please.

linda answers:

I can relate to everything you just said. Not to overanalyze the matter, but it would probably be wise to look a little deeper into your tendancy.

Typically, I find it very difficult to be just “happy” in a relationship. It is great for a month or two, and then I’m looking for the exit. I’m pushing 40, and nothing has changed in the last 20 years of dating. At this point, there is no shame in just admitting some truths I have encountered.

1) I enjoy my own life, space, and privacy. Dating can be an intrusion. However, this alone does not make me look for the exit.

2) It seems difficult for me at times to believe that the person I am dating could possibly be interested in me. I contrive ways to invalidate their affection. People have told me I have low self esteem and low estimates of my worth. Not sure what it is they see.

3) It is difficult to look down the road even 3 to 5 years and see myself married, or in some instances raising step-children. Simply can’t picture it. Not that it is something I dread. Not at all. Put simply, try as I may, it is something that just doesn’t any kind of tangibility.

At this point, I’m getting a little tired of being alone. Having no emotional support system is hard to live with. I’ve asked the same questions you just did for 15 years or more.

I know this is no answer, but it is important to me that you not tear yourself up over the matter. Who knows, maybe it is as natural for you and I to want to be alone as it is for other people to naturaly want to be in a relationship.

Joseph asks…

Break up/Relationship Advice.. on the verge of insanity.?

Well if anyone has the time to hear me out, I’d REALLY appreciate it, because I have a lot to say, and I really, REALLY need the help from people who aren’t biased or won’t judge me.

I’m 18. I’ve been in one real relationship. Until I met this guy, I was basically a nobody, all I did was be a cute little innocent school girl. Until I met *him*. When we got together, everything changed, including what I did (like drinking, clubbing) to the people I hung out with. I met him when I was 16, and he was 18. I’m now 18 and he is 20. I grew up very quickly because of my ex. I matured faster and found myself always being the youngest in the crowd.

Because he was my first, we had a strong connection, but I was always curious, and sometimes I got bored and had commitment issues. He treated me like a queen. He did everything and anything for me. I always had attitude issues and got frustrated easily. I took him for granted. He forgave me a lot. Sometimes I would find myself getting lured into other guy’s traps. This happened nearly 3 times. The 3rd time I caught myself.

We dated for a total of 13 months. We just broke up 10 days ago. In these past 10 days I’ve had suicidal thoughts, I’ve hurt myself, I never wanted to wake up. I spent the last 13 months of my life with this man, and all of the sudden, HE’S GONE. Especially because our mutual friends prefer him over me, I feel very lonely. I don’t enjoy life anymore.

He says he can’t trust me, he says he never loved me, he says he doesn’t want anything to do with me. I can’t grasp that though. He has said some very cruel things to me. I never cheated on him though. Never. I talked to other guys while dating him.

Disaster makes people change, and that’s what happened to me. I never realized anything was wrong with me until the most important thing was taken away from me, and I would kill to get my love back. I wanted to marry him. I just never could admit it, and I would never tell him… He gave me a ring, he took it back.. he took back all his clothes, everything. He ignored my calls for 10 days, we’ve talked a few times, but that would be me begging for him, or him telling me nasty, awful names.

How can I get my love back? I would do anything…
To the first responder, I did not cheat on him.

linda answers:

Hey! If I were you, I would check out this blog:

http://relationshipadviceandconfessions.blogspot.com/

You can email in a question and a relationship expert will reply with advice for you. It is awesome! They really helped me out yesterday. It’s completely anonymous. Good luck!

David asks…

my boyfriend has major trust and commitment issues..please help?

i met my boyfriend over the summer. he was not the normal type of guy that i would date but dispite all of the flaws or waht not i started to fall for him like really fast. which in my case never happens..i just never felt this way about anyone. come to find out i had more feelings for him and we stopped seeing eachother he actually went back to his ex at this time (at this point we were only dating nt committed). he ended up realizing that he had made a mistake and wanted to be with me and commit to me. he told me he didnt realize what he had when we were dating and wanted to make it work. well at this point i was aware of his trust and commitment issues due to his past relationships of woman lieing and cheating. i choose to take him back simply because i had felt from the moment i started dating him that things were just right. he is an amazing guy and i feel i am also an amazing woman…we are seriously the couple that everyone looks at and envys. everyone that sees us says we are perfect for each other and can see the chemistry. well i stopped dancing and made many changes for our relationship because i truly do care very deeply for him. everything was going great i mean better than i could have ever asked for. there were a few times where i didnt tell him the truth for no reason even though i could have i felt as though i couldnt which was my mistake. but i never cheated or did anything towards him or against our relationship. tht happend within the first 6weeks of our committed relationship. since then i have been so honest with him god is smiling at me. But he now is saying that he isnt sure if he sees a future due to his lack of trust and not being sure if he ever sees himself getting married. seriously i love this guy and know that i will never hurt him or ever be dishonest about anything but i dont know how to prove that to him. i have apologized to him many times about not being honest with him. we live together right now and we are trying to figure out what to do … stay together or split up . i want to stay together obviously but am at a loss of what to do…i know many people would say leave why would you want to be with a guy who feels that way but i care so much for him and want this to work i know how perfect we are together but idk if his fear of someone hurting him is gonna be the end of us… having him essentially shutting me out and pushing me away. please give me advice and no rude comments..thank you so much

linda answers:

You can’t control how he feels or what he wants. If he has no trust and is unsure of the relationship, and if he is thinking of splitting, you can’t force him to change his mind. It would be wrong on your part to make him stay in a relationship he doesn’t want.

Trust me, if he does want out, you’ll find at some point that there is a silver lining to this black cloud. If you’re an amazing woman, then there is a guy out there who WANTS to be in a committed, honest relationship without hesitation. A guy who has a healthy attitude and outlook.

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Your questions about dating advice tips and tricks

Tuesday, January 18th, 2011 at 6:05 pm  
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Mary asks…

How to get the guy? Date advice, Tips, tricks, Flirting Techniques?

Hey okay SOOOO lets cut to the chase

Met a guy, he had a HUGE party at his house, i went with some friends, I ended up dancing with him about 4 times. definitely flirty
then about a week later he texts me and asks if when he gets back in town, if i wanted to go see a movie with him. I said YES of course, so hes gone for 2 weeks without contact.
Before he left, I mentioned my friends big “sweet 16″ birthday party/dance and he asked if he should go, I said YES WITH ME! and he said hed love to, and thanks for inviting him. SO he just recently broke up with his longtime girlfriend (were both about 16/17 btw) and hes been majorly on the rebound but i am starting to think hes getting over it.

The movies will be my first REAL date. and I REALLY NEED TIPS and help on what to do, how to act, etc.

The party, I think I can handle. I just REALLY want to impress him. I want to show him im not your average skanky girl that is just all over him. I want him to know I am genuine.

HELP!?!?! guys or girls advice would be great!! THANKS SO MUCH!!!
also, Do i kiss him on the 1st date? or wait? what would be appropriate? I will probly WANT to kiss him, but I dont want to mess it up and make him think im an easy girl cause I am SOOO totally not.

THANKS AGAIN…

linda answers:

Very easy situation. Though personally, I don’t think you should go to the movies with him for a first date. I think you should ask him to take somewhere else where you could really bond and talk to each other. When you’re at the movies, you obviously can’t talk to each other, so it really much of a first date. Maybe movie dates in the future, but try going to the beach or what not as a first. The park is even better than a movie.

But here are the tips you’ve asked for.

#1: Don’t be negative about dating. Why should a man pursue someone who isn’t happy? It’s ineffective manhandling to dump your dating disappointments on bachelor No. 3.

Romance Rule: Be a romantic challenge, not a mental health challenge.

#2: Don’t get tipsy. Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date’s character. Practice restraint, and don’t have more than a drink or two when you’re out on a first date. Otherwise, how in the world can you possibly observe him and decide if he’s remotely right for you?

Romantic Rule: Always stay sober enough to remember how naughty you were the night before!

#3: Don’t talk badly about your exes. I don’t care if he cheated on you with your sister, don’t recite a laundry list of grievances about your exes. This will only make you sound unavailable at best, or worse, wounded.

Romantic Rule: We all have baggage. Keep it in the closet on first dates.

#4: Don’t spook your suitor. Now is not the time to point out your physical flaws. Only bring these complaints to people who can actually do something about them, and not to men who will now be forced to lie to you if they possess good manners.

Romantic Rule: Confidence is sexy! Sometimes, thoughts are for the inside.

#5: Don’t talk about your personal pet peeves. Although your therapist might get butterflies inside when you talk about how traumatized you are by the staggering number of germs that thrive in public restrooms, the typical male will be horrified. You’ll have violated the sacred air space of “romantic quality time” and these little monologues of strange pain will be as off-putting as if you started sorting unwashed laundry in a restaurant.

Romantic Rule: You already know all about you. Keep your problems to yourself and get to know him.

#6: Don’t chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase. Besides, it’s so much fun being caught! A woman can always initiate a first tea date, but after that, it’s up to a man to decide whether he wants to pursue you. Entice men, play with them, and then release them! Allow men to initiate and take the lead in moving your relationship forward.

Romantic Rule: When men chase you, they’re much less likely to fly away.

#7: Don’t keep squawking.

“Don’t feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter.”

If the conversation falls silent for a moment, don’t panic, just let it happen. Natural pauses are sexy, and body language can be so much more powerful than words. Slowly smile at him and breathe. You may be surprised when he blurts out in the middle of a deliciously pregnant pause, “Come here and kiss me!”

Romantic Rule: Remember, sometimes less conversation really is more.

#8: Learn how to leave. Anyone can be pleasant when they’re enjoying themselves, but the true test of character is how one behaves when terribly bored, or worse, treated shabbily. There’s nothing to be gained by suffering through a terrible date, so if you’re having an awful time, depart quickly and gracefully, without being rude. When you’re itching to leave, say: “Thank you so much for meeting me. I think it’s time for me to go on home, Jerome. (Smile) Take care.” Extend your hand for a quick shake, swiftly turn on your heel and depart.

Steven asks…

Dating tips needed!?

Ok so i’ve added a girl i met on facebook, same city, etc etc. I really like her, we just met okay and i would like to meet her in real life, what advice, tips, tricks would you give me to take it to that point? Please give me good tips i really like her and want to meet her. I just met her so don’t want to be too sudden!

linda answers:

Ask her if she WANTS to meet at the park, or someplace similar to that, someplace private yet still public and safe sounding. Most girls would like to feel like they’re safe and protected, its in their evolutionary genetic code.
This may sound stupid but find out what sign she is and go from there too. For example, if she is a Cancer then ask to take her out to eat because cancers love to eat.

Thomas asks…

need some advice on seeing my long distance boyfriend this weekend and i have a fever blister?

I am leaving friday to see my long distance boyfriend this weekend. I have a fever blister the size of Texas on my lip and because of the severity of this blister I am very insecure about it. My bf and i have been dating for almost 5 months now and he has not seen me with a blister before. I am very nervous and afraid that he will be grossed out and turned off. Does anyone have any advice, tips or tricks for me?

linda answers:

>Avoid acidic and salty foods. Foods such as chocolates, peanuts, grains, peas, seeds, oatmeal and whole-wheat are high in arginine, therefore they should be restricted. Avoid tea and coffee. Eat vitamin rich diet. Your diet must include vitamin A, C and E. Zinc and iron are also necessary. Include garlic in your diet. Eat fresh food with high antioxidants and high complex carbohydrates. Avoid processed food. Eat lots of fruits and green leafy vegetables.

> http://www.healthguidance.org/entry/2403/1/Home-Remedies-For-Fever-Blisters.html

Mandy asks…

Tips for a new college student, do you have any?

I’m going off to college this fall. I’m so nervous and excited. Do you have any tips, tricks or advice you really wished you knew? It could be about anything. Scholarships, money, avoiding the freshman 15, dating, school work and test prep. What do you think is the MOST important thing for someone to know when they go to college?

linda answers:

BE OPEN MINDED! College is a culture shock. This is the first time you are completely on your own so you have to be responsible. No matter what anyone else says, academics always come first. If you work hard you play hard. You will meet so many different people and experience new situations so whatever comfort zone you had in high school will be challenged. Be your own person. And don’t be nervous. Everyone is in the same situation as you so don’t feel like you’re the only one. Really pay attention to the syllabus because each professor has a different teaching style. And never feel pressured into doing something you don’t want to do. Best of luck! You will do great!

George asks…

I’m getting married and need some tips?

Hi! well like my title says, I’m getting married next fall and am just starting the planning process. We have yet to pick and exact date, but we’ve pretty much decided on aug of 2011. We’re trying to have a classy, elegant wedding while spending as little as we can. So, I’m more or less asking for any tips, tricks, advice or anything else anyone would like to give me. Thanks!
Thanks, I’ll definitely check that website out!
Thanks Dev =0)

linda answers:

Hi Simi, congrats! You are right on track with picking out your month, but don’t choose a day yet! Find the venue you want, and choose a day based on their availability. Most places offer discounts on Sunday weddings or weekday weddings (weekdays are hard for guests to do).

Definitely sign up with theknot.com. Keep an eye on their checklist, budgeter, and clearance shop!

First find your reception hall. Pick your colors after (so they don’t clash), and search for a place to have the ceremony nearby (if you aren’t going to do it all at one location. It IS typically cheaper to do it all together). Look into some hotels, some of the less “fancy” chains like Holiday Inn might surprise you with how nice their event spaces are (in some cases).

Try to pick a place that does wedding packages, not only will this save you a ton of effort, but it can sometimes save money. A reception hall will contract with the same vendors each time, which means they get discounts. Many times, it is cheaper to book a wedding package with a cake and centerpieces included than to buy them separately yourself, but do the math and figure it out.

Good luck!

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Your questions about dating expert advice

Monday, January 17th, 2011 at 6:05 pm  
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Lisa asks…

Any sites where you can email a dating expert for advice??

Does anyone know of any sites where you can email a dating expert for advice. Ive been searching all day looking for one. I have a real dating problem and i could use some expert advice with it. Anyone know of any sites.

linda answers:

I’m sorry, I wish I did. I usually ask a friend of mine who is happily married. I try to stay away from asking advice from friends in crappy relationships. Let me know if you find what you are looking for because I am having some problems of my own.

Betty asks…

NEED EXPERT dating advice PLZ!!!!?

my gf is a vegan and she recently started bringing a carrot into the bed with us. the problem now is she is poking me in the rear with it and i dont like it. what should i do

linda answers:

become a salad shooter… blow a big fart on her carrot. that should stop her. Or, bring a steaming bowl of meat and poke her in the rear with it…… who knows what might happpen next?!

Sandra asks…

Need expert dating advice?

i was real shy about talking to this one girl. she was real hot and had a bf so oneday i went to her house with a bottle of mustard knocked on her door and said would u like a hotdog and put mustard on my balls. we did it that night i was just wondering is there a easier way to pick up chicks

linda answers:

liar

Michael asks…

What’s with Yahoo giving dating advice?

Here’s the title: “Are you too picky in dating?”

Their advice: “A dating expert says people are looking for the wrong things, like attractiveness.”

Oh, yeah, that’s what I wanted to hear, date a wart hog, thanks. Ok, so don’t date anyone attractive?

That rules out all my contacts, sorry girls.

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linda answers:

You’ve forgotten I’m a contact haven’t you luv. And by the way, this may be the only way I’ll ever get a date, so shut up before I muzzle you!

Joseph asks…

If you’re a guy, is it better to take dating advice from other guys or from women?

I hear it all over about how women dont know what they want, and how a guy named David DeAngelo is supposedly an expert at dating. But my big sister said its better for me to get advice from women than men.
What do you think?

linda answers:

Heard of Gary Brodsky? He blows David DeAngelo out of the water!

Women don’t even know what they want half the time. They will embarrassingly admit this. How can you expect them to give advice?

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Always There Anytime Relationship Advice Online

Wednesday, July 29th, 2009 at 3:11 am  
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