If you want to be happy in your relationship, let me give you a little relationship advice. C-0-M-M-U-N-I-C-A-T-E with each other about E-V-E-R-Y-T-H-I-N-G. If an issue comes up tackle it immediately. Every relationship will have issues, no one is perfect and that includes the two of you.

You will hit a rough patch sooner or later. It does not matter what the rough patch is all about, just know that there will be one. Hitting a rough spot does not mean that the relationship has to be over, in fact, hitting a rough spot and making it through will make your relationship stronger and more able to handle the next rough patch that comes along.

Trusting your spouse is very important. It can keep you both secure in how you handle the relationship. Some people trust just as a matter of course and take it away only if something happens for them to feel like they can no longer trust. Some make you earn the trust they put in you and are completely devastated if that trust is broken.

Some also feel that it is trust, not love, that will make or break a relationship. If trust is not there or has been betrayed then it may take quite a bit of groveling to get it back, if you ever do. Some important relationship advice, be so ready to kiss some serious booty if you are the betrayer. You have your work cut out for you.

You are in love, no one is disputing that, but in all seriousness doesn’t it do you some good every now and again to just get the heck away from each other? It should. Go out separately with friends or spend the day with family. Give each other a break and just go your own separate ways like one day a week. You will be healthier for it and will also come back with stories to tell about how your day went. You both will appreciate the other that much more because of this.

When conflict does come up, it is very important to know how to handle yourselves decently in a fight. No finger pointing, or name calling, keep the fight fair. Learn how to compromise. If there is mutual respect in the relationship all of this will be very easy to maintain. Respect will lead to negotiation which, in turn, will lead to a compromise that the both of you can live with.

Being able to compromise in any given situation lets you both have your say and lets you both see that your opinion matters. When what you have to say matters then no one can ever have the upper hand and the two of you can truly call yourselves partners.

Following good relationship advice and dealing with the issues as they surface will help the two of you feel so much more secure in your relationship and the stronger and more secure you are the longer the relationship will last. With just a little work, your relationship can be one of the best around.

In many states, all a husband or wife has to do to end the relationship is state to the court that there are “irreconcilable differences” and the court will grant the divorce.  But, in any marriage, there should be irreconcilable differences.  The best way to save marriage is to embrace the conflict that is inherent in a close partnership between two people.

We often think of divorcing couples as the ones who screamed at each other all of the time.  But if these couples can communicate their needs through elevated voices, they are actually doing better than the couple that avoids all conflict at the cost of expressing their needs and beliefs.

It is these silent couples who need to save marriage through embracing conflict.

While no one is suggesting that emotional and verbal abuse is a good thing for a relationship, couples who don’t acknowledge that there are problems and differences are actually more likely to split up according to Dr. John Gottman, a researcher who runs the Love Lab.

So, if you want to save a marriage, you need to learn how to communicate and express your differences.  Here are some tips for communication in marriage:

·    Allow enough time for proper communication.  If you are not spending enough time together to air your differences and share your strengths, you will find your relationship is in trouble.  Work on building couple’s time back into your life.  For instance, make a point of eating dinner together several times a week or going out on a date very week.

·    Really listen when your partner speaks.  It is amazing how much we tune out our partners.  He or she may be telling you what you need to know.  But, if you are not listening, it is all in vain.

·    Find out why your partner is annoyed.  When your husband or wife is being particularly grumpy, find out what is really going on.  Sometimes, it may be that you have done something that has annoyed them.  Other times, it may be that something completely unrelated has occurred.  But you won’t know unless you ask.

·    Get inside his or her world.  As couples begin to drift apart, they start to live in separate worlds.  When you make an attempt to get inside his or her world, you may just save the marriage.

·    Stop judging.  Express what needs you have and listen to your spouse’s needs.  But, don’t be quick to judge or criticize.

·    Be honest.  One of the biggest problems for people who don’t like conflict is that they can’t be honest about what they want and need.  When you start to express honest opinions about things, you will begin to save your marriage.

Marriage is hard work.  But, if it is worth it to you to save your marriage, you will do the work.  That means more communication, and yes, more conflict.